Recently, I’ve had consulting calls with parents of student-athletes who are in the first month or so of their freshman year at their chosen college, but they are unhappy and want to transfer.
That’s a tough situation for parents, because you want to support your child, but at the same time, you may be feeling that you need to show them some “tough love” by telling them that they have to stay there for at least one year to adjust to the coaches, the team, and the school.
Many years ago, my sister wanted to come home during the first semester of her freshman year. My Dad told her that she had to stay at least through the end of the first semester. She did, and my Dad later joked that after that, they could hardly convince her to come home for holidays!!
I can’t make that decision for you if you’re in that situation, but I can tell you this: Be sure your son or daughter does not quit their classes, and that they do their best on their academics. If they don’t, it can have a profound effect on their transfer options down the line.